Born to be Happy

February 20th, 2010

The guy with a funny face:

He was born to be happy, or, to be precise, considering his looks, born to make people happy. Even when cut to pieces for poor performance as a process engineer, his reaction would be no more than a few flutters of his eyes, followed by a big grin showing all his large teeth and dark gums. He had the uncanny ability to make even the most dreary subject sound funny, by his looks. Needless to say, he was always sought after in gatherings.

Putting up a façade:

That’s what a lot of people do to cope with adversity, real or imagined. They also do that to hide a shortcoming, handicap or insufficiency; to run away from past negative experience.

The guy with a funny face probably found it wanting to have another soul, other than his mother, capable to love his looks. He married a very lovely doctor. His wife? I guess she has, like so many women, the beauty-and-the-beast syndrome.

Jean was one. Fearing of having to contend with several flirting women, she married a guy so many leagues below her in beauty. What resulted was a real-life equivalent of the beauty-and-the beast tale. He inflicted physical harm on her, had a mistress, couldn’t keep a job and stayed home late with the boys, drinking.

She coped with her misfortune by getting in touch with guys like me. Aaahhhh! Another sweet aspect of my life.

Positive psychology:

We all need, and deserve, to be happy. Unfortunately, circumstances in our lives, by intention or accident, keep “happiness” away from a lot of us. That should not keep us from looking within to find out a way of driving the devils away from our souls.

If we look inwards hard enough, we can find “strengths and virtues that enable individuals and communities to survive and thrive. There is a vein of genius and talent within each of us to make it possible for us to lead more fulfilling lives.

Our lives are a mixture of the choices we make To be happy is a choice. But it requires a conscious effort to be so - especially if one was not born with a “funny” face.

That is positive psychology.

Note: Positive psychology has created a lot of interest vis-à-vis “happiness” that in 2006, a course in Harvard University, entitled “Positive Psychology,” became the most popular course that semester.




Stop Laughing – Grow Old

February 17th, 2010

Why we should laugh:

My friend sent me an email containing something we should never forget:

“You don’t stop laughing because you grow old;

You grow old because you stopped laughing.”

A long time ago, my father-in-law had a hired hand who looked as if he was carrying the entire world on his shoulders. Shortly after having met him, he left my father-in-law’s employ. I found out later that he got married. He was a changed man the next time we met. He had a lighter look in his face and was easy to laugh. Marriage seemed to have a positive effect on him, reminding me of my short discussion on marriage with my diving instructor.

Over a cup of coffee, watching girls go by, my diving instructor asked me if I was ready to get married again, to settle down for good. I made him laugh so loud when I said, “show me a guy who gut married and settled down for good.”

The Oxford Happiness Index:

“Happiness” is a state difficult to define and achieve because of personal differences and mindsets. On the whole, certain parameters can be laid down to determine if a person is “happy” or not. You want to know what they are? Go to the link below and take Oxford’s test to determine whether you are happy or not:

http://www.meaningandhappiness.com/oxford-happiness-questionnaire/214/

Should you decide to take the test, be honest with yourself even if you are untruthful to others. Nothing sullies happiness more than being dishonest with oneself.

There is something sweet in us all:

Albert Camus said that “All men have a sweetness in their life. That is what helps them go on. It is towards that they turn when they feel too worn out.”

Motivational speakers always expound in looking at the good side, rather than the bad side, of everything and everyone. I would find that extremely difficult to do with regards to two people I know.

My sister-in-law is short, fat and ugly. She does nothing the whole day but play ma-jhong with women such as her. A unique combination of bad looks and disposition, she lives off the income of her seaman husband. He is probably one happy SOB when he is on board his vessel. But when he is on furlough, he doesn’t have a life of his own.

The eldest son of another sister-in-law grew up with his grandparents. Doted to the very core, there is absolutely nothing he knows in life. He took up half-a-dozen courses, finishing none. He tried raising goats and pigs - all died.

He asked, and was given, permission by his parents to marry a rural lass. They lived, for a while, with his parents almost driving his wife nuts. Then they moved in with the girl’s parents driving his in-laws nuts. He wakes up each morning when the farmers are already in their first bottles of beer, does not eat vegetables, couldn’t weigh his in-laws farm products, does not know how to drive, to farm the field. All he knows is to eat. They now have a child and he doesn’t even know how to change diapers, much more to prepare the baby’s formula.

Boy, am I happy that I am miles and miles away from my in-laws. That aspect in my life is so sweet it can give me diabetes.




It’s Easy to Be Happy When the Sun is Shining

February 13th, 2010

Faith and happiness:

While planning for my next blog on the subject, that “little” voice asked me, “Would you still feel ‘happy’ if your son is a useless bum, your daughter promiscuous, you’re living in a shanty colony, your health is failing, your savings are gone and existence is a daily grind?”

I have a friend who has two bachelor’s degrees and a master’s degree in mathematics from a prestigious U.S. university. Yet his career never went past beyond middle management. After being retrenched from his last job, he went evangelizing full time. Last year he was bedridden  due to a bad stroke.

When the group knew of his misfortune, we wasted no time in visiting him. What I saw shocked me beyond measure.

From wifely gossips I was told that he continues to live with his in-laws, unable to build a house of his own because he could never refuse to help a “brother” or “sister” needing help. Our visit confirmed it and more. I would have gone crazy living in the conditions he was in and recovery from a stroke, for me, would have been impossible in the small and dirty room he was convalescing in.

A couple of days ago, I met him in Facebook. After the usual pleasantries, he wrote that he will soon be able to walk normally and added by thanking God for his blessings. I wrote back that he would have been more blessed without it. He countered by saying that “that is your own opinion and I respect it. But as far as I am concerned, what happened was part of God’s grand design and I am happy and thankful for it.”

Enigma of faith and happiness:

My friend’s case illustrates the difficulty in achieving “harmony with the life we lead,” because, more often than not, our lives are mostly affected by the choices we make, partly by the choices we are forced to make. In some cases, we don’t have any choice at all. People deep in their faith rejoice in whatever situation they are in. “They are a small price compared to the promise of eternal bliss in Heaven,” they say. Ahhh, Heaven!

Another friend is also in harmony with the life he leads. Grossly unable to control his run-away weight, his tongue once slipped about his problem with his children. Deeply religious but of different denomination, he insists that whether we like it or not, we are all bound for Heaven. I told him I don’t believe in Heaven. He said that it matters not whether I believe or not but the fact is that God destined us all to be with Him in Heaven. It is up to us to take the challenge.

Heaven is in the Heart:

Another friend is an enigma. He said that he teaches moral values and regeneration to military and police personnel. In a country where human rights abuses and the military are synonyms and there hardly is a difference between the police and criminal elements, the success of his endeavors is highly suspect. It was he who told me that “happiness” is essentially worldly while “joy” is heavenly. I don’t know what dimension he is in except that he is easy to smile even at jokes about his looks.

I find the promise of happiness, or joy, in Heaven so far away. I cannot envision how one can have joy in the absence of sorrow. White cannot exist without black and darkness would be  without meaning if there was no light.

Suffice it is to say that we are a product of our own choices - to be in harmony or disharmony with the life we lead. We can choose to be happy or to be sad. The death of my wife still pricks my soul. It is a hard struggle. But I’d rather be happy with my children, who, she essentially raised, than the pain of her demise.




My Reasons to be Happy

February 11th, 2010

“Through self-denial”

Happiness, for many people, stems from self-indulgence. Others form self-denial. Yesterday, circumstances forced me to deny myself for the happiness of my children.

We went scuba-diving but I was forced out when my tank developed a leak in one of its O-ring gaskets. So I had Alfred, our diving instructor, take my children down while I will snorkeled. The happiness I felt was beyond measure when they surfaced, 45 mins later, gushing with excitement from a satisfying dive.

Daughter and Son, 2/07/10 Dive

Daughter and Son, 2/07/10 Dive

A lot of Hindus find physical and spiritual well-being from fasting and last Christmas (and three previous Christmases) I and my children, instead of treating ourselves to something, treated five children from an orphanage to lunch then bought them gifts; we spent a fortune for the catering services during our annual family get-together.

From friends:
I have every reason to be happy with the friends that I have - few as they are, and pray for them every night.

When my wife died, I and my children were too crushed with grief and “lost” to do anything. Then a long-time friend came along facilitating everything for the wake. Earlier, when I was driven to the ground financially, another friend came to the rescue allowing me to settle my debts with my daughter’s medical school. This time, she was with me until the end of my wife’s cremation.

I don’t hang out with my “friends or go shopping or dining with them. But when crunch comes, when hope is vested on kind and unconditional hands, as sure as the sun rises each day, they are there. As blessed as I am for my “trouble-free” children, I have people who come around  when trouble comes.

Faith:

St Paul defined Faith as the “belief on things to come…. Evidence of things hoped for.” Intangible as the wind, it is manifested as an expression rather than a definition. Man has the compulsion to believe in “something” from the beginning of time. It can be worship to the rivers, trees, mountains or the stellar objects in heaven. Mine is a belief in one true God, the source and giver of everything.

A person without faith is incapable of believing in anything, including love. And if love is absent from a man’s heart, peace can never find a home in him. Without peace, happiness is impossible.

Happiness, through and from faith, is the purest form of “happiness.” It is also the most difficult to achieve. Bill Gates probably found it easier to amass his wealth than to have faith; find happiness from and through it. You and I can be no different.




In Pursuit of Happiness

February 6th, 2010

“Happiness - analytical approach”

A Filipina friend in Australia plots her experiences in a chart of positives and negatives. After a time, she makes a summation of the plots. If she comes up with more points in the positive side, she considers herself “happy.” Otherwise, she is unhappy.

Not many are endowed with such mathematical and analytical skills making it difficult for them, including me, to have a numerical determination of “happiness.”

Happiness - mundane approach:

My idea of “happiness” is being still for a moment to ponder life.

The sun has not totally pushed away the darkness after breakfast this morning and the air was cool and my noisy neighbors were still mostly asleep. Then the need to take stock of my life, through prayers, tugged at my soul so I started counting my blessings.

I felt blessed for having wakened each morning for the past 61 years. It has not always been healthy and wealthy but today I felt I am. And so I said a prayer for my “happiness” through:

My children:

My son was preparing for work and my daughter was winding down her whole-day duty as an OB-Gyne junior consultant at a nearby hospital. Both are past their teens, adults, professionals and starting life of their own. Both still refuse to marry and are opting to stay with me for as long as I-don’t-know-when. They say “marriage will just come, so you should not hurry us up.”

They grew up in a very disciplined environment. That has paid dividends now that they are adults. Since early on, they already know my limits and have come to respect them. They grew under my nose making me recognize and respect their personality differences as well. This set-up allows us to bond together like never before. My children are my family. Without them, all else is meaningless.

My resources:

Very soon I, too, will be going out for the office. I am officially retired but refused not this opportunity when it came - at the most opportune time.

I was down and out financially; suicide was a tempting option. Then through a cousin, this landed on my lap like manna from Heaven. Without it I would not have been able to settle my debts, make some choices, put aside a little something in case a drizzle becomes a downpour. With it, I can dine with my children monthly, pay my tennis dues and fulfill my commitment to an orphanage.

The real bonus is that I can do it at home, which I do two days a week. Today is one of those when I have to go to the office for two reasons. First, so the people who engaged my services won’t forget me and, second, I have to pump irons again.

My health:

Today is the first day I felt “good” after a smoking-induced cough and colds wracked my body for more than two weeks. It got so bad that my right eardrum was brought to near eruption from all the coughing and sneezing. I still cannot hear too well from my right ear but my feeling of imbalance is now tolerable enough to do the 40-kg weights I work around with.

The episode underscored the need to cut down on this dirty habit if I am to be “happy” with my physical well-being which, at my age, is better than a lot of guys my age or younger.

In Pursuit of Happiness

January 26th, 2010

What is it to be Happy?”

My dilemma:

I have not been consistent with my blog for several weeks now. The truth is that I am finding it more difficult to write about something. Not that there is nothing to write about. The world is full of it. But to write about something close to the heart, something that can make one’s fingers glide over the keyboards is one hell of a problem.

One day, while feeling remorse for having not done that which I love to do, the word “Happiness” popped into my mind, injecting a new resolve into my soul to write about the subject - one which a lot of people are chasing, yet finding not.

What is “happiness?”

In its simplest form, “Happiness” is a state of mind or feeling characterized by contentment, love, satisfaction, pleasure or joy. What makes it so elusive to find is that, as a “state,” “happiness” is so dynamic and  can exist, though momentarily, in different dimensions, i.e., philosophical, religious, psychological, biological, etc, at any time in our daily lives. The problem is to get hold of it for longer periods of time, to cherish, to value, never to let go.

In search for happiness:

Abd Er-Rahman III of Spain said:

“I have now reigned about 50 years in victory or peace, beloved by my subjects, dreaded by my enemies, and respected by my allies. Riches and honors, power and pleasure, have waited on my call, nor does any earthly blessing appear to have been wanting to my felicity. In this situation, I have diligently numbered the days of pure and genuine happiness which have fallen to my lot. They amount to fourteen.

The above underscores the difficulty in finding pure and undiluted happiness that can last more than a whiff of a second. Albert Camus succinctly, opined of this difficulty when he said, “You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.”

Looking within:

“But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads?” adds Albert Camus, perhaps as an afterthought of the difficulty digesting the full meaning of what he earlier said.

Bringing us back to the dilemma of Abb Er-Rahman III of Spain. He had everything, yet can count only fourteen days of happiness within his 50-year rule. He had everything most of us would die for, yet he yearned for something a lot of us have - more days of happiness.

Or, are we really happy? Thus far, can we count more than fourteen days in our lives, wherein we were truly happy?

10 Sins Which Can Be Good

December 20th, 2009

It’s a complicated world:

After reading much on health and fitness and food, what has become clear is that nothing is clear and the only thing that is certain is that there is no panacea against all the health-related problems of man. An exercise routine for one is not good for another, a health regimen for one can be risky for another. Early this year a well-known drug for arthritis was removed from the shelf for negative side-effects on the kidneys. Tea is good for some, avoided by others. Coffee contains anti-oxidants but can contribute to heart attacks on others.

A girl I know takes food supplements to, according to her, “reverse her aging process.” Yet nothing can stop her from turning 48 early next year and she still has no man in her life. Is there a connection here? Maybe, maybe none. But a study done by medical students of a local university showed the heavy occurrence of renal failures among long-term users of food supplements.

As if things are not complicated as they are, an Internet article dealt on 10 things considered, on the average, as bad can really be beneficial to people. Here they are:

1.       Beer:

I am a beer drinker, not a guzzler. My reason for moderation is the dread of having a beer-belly, not an improvement in my cardiovascular functions, which the new study is purported to reveal. And I don’t intend to find out either. A couple bottles of beer on weekend nights are enough to strike up a conversation with long-legged beer promo-girls in skimpy shorts.

2.       Anger:

It is completely alright to get angry for the right reasons, right degree and at the right persons or things. Of course, in the real world, anger cannot be programmed. If kept within bounds, anger is a better coping mechanism than fear, irritation or disgust. If allowed to rule one’s life, anger can result to a host of health issues like blood pressure problems, sleep disorders and lung damage.

I recently observed that my blood pressure problem is not a function of the food that I ate but of my emotional state. My BP hovers around the 120/80 level if I had a good night’s rest. But if my bed sheet is crumpled all over and my pillows are thrown about, Capoten is a necessary companion.

But driving in the Philippines can easily drive one to red-hot anger.

3.       Coffee:

Of late, I prefer iced tea over brewed coffee for the simple reason that the latter tends to give me heart palpitation and overall physical discomfort. Aside from the fact that coffee is a major source of anti-oxidants, recent studies show that it can lower the risk of diabetes and ease the onset of cirrhosis of the liver and pancreatitis.

I find coffee a good excuse to pass the time in a decent coffee shop and watch all the girls go by. If that is not good for the heart, I don’t know what else.

4.       LSD:

Short for lysergic acid diethylamide, LSD came into prominence in the 60s when the counter-culture and the Vietnam war hugged people’s senses. To get away from it all, the “hippies” were born symbolizing the anti-thesis of what is “square.”

The drug is non-addictive and non-toxic but its psychological effects made it “harmful” for consumption. At any rate, it has again hit the headlines from studies showing that small doses of LSD can help prevent a relapse among people hitting rock-bottom stage of alcoholism.

I think it is better not to be an alcoholic in the first place, isn’t it?

5.       Sunlight:

Unless one is a member of a construction work-gang exposed to sunlight 24/7, I never thought this is “harmful” to man. Asthmatics can benefit from regulated doses of sunlight to suppress the immune reactions known to cause asthma. It is known to boost the mood, even under the shade   and helps office workers avoid afternoon drowsiness. Too much of it can cause skin cancer.

People in the tropics, like me, cannot escape it. Fortunately our skins can withstand higher levels of UV light sparing us the risks of skin cancer compared to those in the colder countries.

6.       Maggots:

Took me while to put this down to keep from throwing up. I have a fear for dead flesh. Just imagine what I feel for rotten flesh, the staple for maggots. Unfortunately, maggots were approved in 2003 by the FDA (Food and Drug Administration) as the only live medical device. Placed on wounds, maggots munch on bacteria and dead tissues, stimulating healing, helping in preventing infection. Wow!

I’d rather settle for a stew of young guava leaves to wash wounds, then sprinkled with powdered penicillin over it and loosely covered with gauze.

A member of a well-know social networking site called me a “maggot” for negatively commenting on her emails written in cell-phone text language. One occasion where a maggot is better than her.

7.       Marijuana:

I’ve written a blog on marijuana but it did not have much of its medical benefits. Often associated with memory loss, it is now considered to help stave off Alzheimer’s disease - the ultimate form of memory loss. Of course the studies were done on mice. Apparently the “grass” contains anti-inflammatory drugs that prevent brain proteins from clumping, one of them major causes of the disease.

I am doubtful on this hypothesis. In fact, because of the mice’s good memory, they follow the same routes as they scamper around my house making it so easy to catch them with fly paper strategically placed on their “remembered” paths. I pray that they don’t learn how to use the marijuana. There’s no telling what they will do if they get “high.”

8.       Red wine:

Red wine is more than just a part of good dining, good music and moonlight to perk up one’s pleasure juice. Resveratrol, an anti-oxidant found in the skin of red wine grapes, can drive one to greater endurance (for what?), reduce gum disease and inhibits the onset of Alzeimer’s disease. These on top of the its being known to have potent anti-cancer and artery-protecting benefits.

But who ever said the red wine is not good for people in the first place?

9.       Chocolate:

Over lunch the other day, I and my children, together with my daughter’s boyfriend, a doctor, indulged ourselves to a box of chocolate. As usual, I had one piece while the rest were helping themselves to their hearts’ delight. Then my daughter’s boyfriend asked my son, which of those in the box, was dark chocolate. To my horror, after being told, he picked a non-dark piece.

But then, doctors are never known to have good health habits.

Chocolate, the dark one, has proven in a lot of studies to be packed with flavonols, an anti-oxidant that prevents cancers and keep arteries from clogging. Lately, it has shown to increase blood flow to the brain warding off dementia.

But keep to dark chocolate. The darker the better, though more bitter. Tobleron and its ilk don’t help one’s health a bit. Munching on fried cacao beans is better, and cheaper too.

10.   Sex:

Who ever said that sex is bad for people ought to be shot.

Sex is a part of life. Without it there will be no life. Too much of it, is too much life. We should thank, not condemn, Adam and Eve for eating that apple.

On the serious side, aside from the gratification and satisfaction out a good love-making, sex has shown to reduce stress, lower cholesterol (after all, it is still first and foremost a physical activity) and improve circulation throughout the body.

The more sex, the more circulation.

Bottom-line:

Like I said, the world is not of absolutes but of relatives. What is good for one may not be good for others. That someone thought that the above “bad” things can actually be good can be very debatable and controversial. At the end of the day the saying “the real test of the pudding is in the eating” shall be the ultimate judge.


Aphrodisiacs, Any One?

December 13th, 2009

Going down to the basics:

A friend of mine takes two food supplements: one is full of fibers for his bowel movement problem, the other is tongkat ali for his libido problem. Jocularly, I call these as things to make the hard soft and the soft hard.

Of course he is not alone, libido-wise. I once thought myself unique until I started talking to a friend about it and, lo, I was and still is, in a tribe of men having the same problem.

Sexual desire is very much a part of life, just like eating, drinking, sleeping, etc. Regardless of what others may say, men, more so women, entertain sexual fantasies at some points in their waking, and sleeping, hours.

Whereas everybody can fantasize to the point of sexual desire, testosterone-rich guys can easily translate that desire into explosive realities. Those in my tribe need a crutch.

What are they?

Aphrodisiac is a word derived from Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of love and beauty. They cover a wide range of natural and man-made “widgets” intended to excite one’s sexual desires. Sexual desires, however, are often frustrated by erectile dysfunction.

So let’s take a look at the most popular aphrodisiacs and what the “experts” say about them.

1.       Rhino Horn:

If anything, the quest for rhino horn has driven the rhinoceros to the brink of extinction. Other than for its shape symbolizing an erect penis, it has no sexual power at all. Unless of course if someone can prove that phosphorous, which it is rich of, can drive somebody wild with sexual desire.

2.       Spanish Fly:

Never heard of this until now. Probably because it is neither a fly nor from Spain but a ground-up blister beetle common to Europe. This beetle contains cantharidin, an acid-like juice that causes a burning and swelling sensation in the urinary tract mistaken as sexual stimulation. And cantharidin is highly toxic.

3.       Alcohol:

I read somewhere that “alcohol increases the urge but decreases the performance.” That is because, according to Karen Boyle, director of Reproductive Medicine and Surgery unit at the Johns Hopkins Hospital, alcohol and similar substances affect blood flow in the arteries and veins, negatively impacting on testosterone levels, thus libido.”

Definitely alcohol lowers inhibitions, making one bolder and raises the level of one’s irrationality resulting to false claims the morning after.

4.       Chocolate:

Aside from its strong come-on appeal, chocolate has phenylethylamine and serotonin, two chemicals that light up the pleasure areas of the brain. Just like sex, it can make us fell good but it does not drive one to a feverish level of sexual desire. Neither can it take care of erectile dysfunction. But it is a good thing to take one’s mind off his/her sexual frustrations.

5.       Oysters:

Am no fan of oysters and it might just be well and good as far as sexual desire is concerned.

Aside from its resemblance to a vagina, the only thing it has that is concerned with libido is that it is high in D-aspartic acid and N-methyl-D-aspartate, which have proven to increase the testosterone levels of male rats.

Which reminds of a father who asked his future son-in-law the night before the wedding whether  “he would be a man and do it tonight or be a mouse and do it tomorrow night?” Sheepishly the bridegroom-to-be said, “well I guess I am a rat because I did it the other night.”

Oysters are high in zinc, which is necessary for sperm production and an excellent appetizer which is a good part of the entire sex process.

6.       Traditional Herbs:

There can be thousands of these but the most popular are the yohimbe, tribulus and maca. Take these with extreme caution. Pulverized and capsulated, they are probably made in some kitchen, without tests and certification from credible accreditation agencies.

Yohimbe, for example, is taken from the bark of West African evergreen tree, and can kill if taken at higher doses.

The Chinese are unbeatable when it comes to making “aphrodisiacs” which probably explains how prolific they are in making babies.

7.       Sildenafil Drugs:

Viagra is one. So is Levitra, Andros and the new kid in the block, Erefil. Not an aphrodisiac per se but a great crutch for erectile dysfunction. True Hero, Tiger Ginseng, Tongkat Ali are alternatives from Chinese home labs. They have the same side effects - flushing, reddening of the eyes, runny nose and tightening of the face muscles. But without a sexual partner to stimulate one’s appetite, they can well be expensive aspirins.

A word of caution from my urologist. Sildenafil drugs are not supposed to be taken by those taking nitrate-based drugs for heart problems.

The core of the issue:

I have never taken any of these aphrodisiacs because I don’t believe in them. Nothing beats a really good and attractive woman to stimulate my sexual desires. And sildenafils have become handy in arriving at a really satisfying climax for those desires.

Eat Chocolate and Be Happy

November 20th, 2009

“What is in your Tobleron?”

That big and delicious Tobleron chocolate bar is one of my favorites. It is made from the seeds of the cacao tree, a native of some parts of South America. The nibs of the hearts of the seeds are ground and liquefied into pure chocolate, called the chocolate liquor. And this liquor is separated into two components, i.e., the cocoa solids (non-fatty part) and the cocoa butter (fatty part).

Of course, Tobleron is just one of the many forms chocolate is made available in the market. Depending on the relative amounts of cocoa solids and butter, as well as sugar and milk added into it, chocolate may come in pure liquor form, called unsweetened or baking chocolate, or with a little fat and sugar in it, called dark chocolate, or lots of milk, on top of the fat and sugar to make milk chocolate. Beware of white chocolate. Supposedly made from pure cocoa butter, some are made from vegetable oils making it a non-chocolate chocolate.

There’s nothing ‘dark’ about dark chocolate:

The less sugar and milk in the chocolate, the more bitter it tastes and the better it is, health-wise.

Recent studies show that taking dark chocolate every day can reduce stress and the darker it is, the better.

Dark chocolate contains polyphenols, an antioxidant that could help fight chronic inflammation of tissues in the circulatory system, minimizing the risk from cardiovascular diseases. These same antioxidants could help reduce the chances of developing cancer by preventing cell damage that can lead to tumor growth.

One study among Italians who ate moderate amounts of dark chocolate showed that consuming moderate amounts (about 6.7 grams of dark chocolate, about 1.5 Hershey kisses) resulted to  lower levels of a protein associated with inflammation. And another showed that chocolate, like aspirin, makes blood platelets less likely to clump together into dangerous blood-vessel blocking clots.

For stress-free living:

A two-week study by scientists led by Sunil Kochhar of the Nestle Research Center in Switzerland, among people who claimed to be highly stressed showed that dark chocolate can lower the levels of stress hormones, cortisol and catecholamines.

The study made the subjects eat 40 grams of dark chocolate every day for two weeks after which doctors took samples from their urine and blood plasma for analysis. All subjects showed lower levels of the above stress hormones.

The caveat of the study was that there were only 30 participants in a very limited time

For happy living:

I once knew of a grossly overweight girl. She was just not big but heavy. One time I saw her gleefully gorging a huge slice of chocolate cake and a quart of chocolate ice-cream right after. And she was smiling all the way through her snack. By ordinary standards, she will not live long if she’s not going to have a life-style change. But she will definitely die happy.

With this added dimension to chocolate, unless one is averse to sweet food (which I am) or is diabetic, gorging on it opens another avenue for happy living - or dying.

Foods to Make You Feel Good

November 7th, 2009

“We eat because…”

My neighbor used to say that food, of any kind, always tastes better when taken if one is famished. And he’s right. A great many, worldwide, eat to slake a hunger not to have an unforgettable dining experience. “How much” and “when” are more important than “what.”

What we eat is what we get:

We eat because we are hungry, in the process we get the nutrients our bodies need to function properly to survive. Unfortunately not many of us get to eat what we are supposed to eat but eat what we have.

For example, eating foods that keep sugar levels steady and the gastrointestinal tracts functioning smoothly can definitely make one feel good and energetic. Certain foods can influence the level of serotonin, the feel-good hormone or prevent inflammation for better blood circulation. A diet rich in fiber and low in saturated fat is definitely heart-friendly than that of  high-fat, high-glycemic meal that can induce a feeling of physical dysfunction.

Feel good, not just “full”:

An article for WebMD, by Elaine Magee MPH, RD, lists these food types that can “make our day:”

1.       Fill up on vitamin B12 and folic acid (folate):

These are found, among others, in chili made with kidney beans and lean beef, or light chicken Caesar salad from skinless chicken breast and romaine lettuce, or grilled salmon with a side of broccoli.

Foods rich in vitamin B12 and folic acid appear to help prevent disorders of the central nervous system, mood disorders and dementia (Edward Reynolds, MD, Institute of Epileptology, King’s College, London).

In my first visit to Japan, I learned how to say “hello” the Japanese way - bow from the waist and smile. After three or four of such “hellos,” I found it difficult to smile due to sore waist muscles.  Ever wonder how the Japanese can do that the whole day? Probably from their diet full of  folic acid (from the beans and greens they eat) and vitamin B12 (from meats, fish, poultry and dairy).

2.       Have fruits and vegetables in a big way:

Have you ever seen a chimp with the blues? That’s because they load up a lot on fruits, specifically bananas. No, taking lots of bananas can’t make one go bananas.

Fruits and vegetables are full of key nutrients and antioxidant phytochemicals, which directly contribute to good health and health-related quality of life. In one study, it was shown that people who eat two or more servings of fruits and vegetables a day had an 11% higher likelihood of having a good functional health and feel far better with their health than those who don’t.

I guess I have to load up more on bananas and papayas to get away from being depressed ever so often.

3.       Get more selenium into your system:

Selenium is a mineral that acts like an antioxidant in the body. Research suggests that the presence of oxidative stress in the brain can cause some cases of mild to moderate depression among elderly people. Selenium negates the effects of this oxidative stress. I hope it does for me as well.

As written previously, after my wife died I suffered bouts of depression and had to consult a doctor. He prescribed anti-depression drugs which, from the Internet, could  contribute to erectile dysfunction. Had I continued using that very expensive drug, I would have had a depression over a depression by now. Now I am confident that my mind power and diet preferences give me better chances of getting away from depression.

I am basically a fish-eater with occasional clams, seashells and crabs. I don’t have uric acid problems to stop me from indulging on beans and other legumes like peanuts. My meat is lean, though I don’t eat beef that much. I don’t eat turkey but I find chicken skin detestable to the taste.

4.       Eat fish more often than you should:

Fish contains Omega-3 fatty acids which seem to prevent mood swings like postpartum depression. Postpartum depression I cannot have, erectile dysfunction can. I cannot quantify the benefits from eating fish but whatever shortfall there is, seldinafil drugs make up for it.

5.       Get a daily dose of vitamin D:

In a sun-drenched country such as the Philippines, this is not so difficult. What is more difficult to understand is why a lot of Filipinos shun the beach for fear of getting “tanned.” Vitamin D is synthesized by our skin from sunlight which we have plenty of.

Studies showed that low levels of vitamin D, not only can result to physical illnesses but can contribute, as well, to higher incidences of PMS (post-menstrual syndrome), seasonal effective disorder (lunacy), non-specified mood disorder and major depressive disorder.

I have more of this from jogging, diving and ordinary day-to-day activities. But no amount of sunshine can make me feel good on days when I play like an idiot in tennis.

6.       An ounce of chocolate gives a pound of physical wellness:

This runs to conventional wisdom but a study in the Netherlands showed that men who had 1/3 of a chocolate bar each day had lower levels of blood pressure and lower rates of heart disease and boosted their general sense of well-being. The study did not mention how overweight they were from eating that much chocolate.

According to Dr. Diane Becker of the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, small amounts of dark chocolate has an effect on the levels of brain endorphins - those feel-good chemicals that our bodies produce. Of course, chocolate always make people feel good. That chocolate have a heart-healthy anti-clogging effect in our blood vessels is a difficult sale.

I like chocolate but I don’t gorge on it. It’s too sweet for my taste. Too much of it not only makes my throat feel like hell, it makes my heartbeat go chugging like a run-away train.