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“Fear of Success“ (last part):

Each of us is probably no stranger to someone who seemingly has everything given to him on a silver platter and gush (with envy) over his successes. While it is easy to droll over his good fortune, but we are loathed to take a closer look at what he went through to get there.

Winding down on this series, successful people are:

Continuously engaged in personal growth:
There was a time when ignorance can be due to lack of opportunities. Today, with the access to the Internet easier than crossing a street, ignorance is due to laziness, no more, no less.

Millions of messages crisscross the globe per minute. Yet how many of these contribute to our professional growth? I have had to unsubscribe to two Yahoo discussion groups for sheer lack of depth in the subjects thrown around daily. Daily I get invitations to join some boy-meets-girl websites. While not entirely bad, but if the time spent in front of the computer is going to add nothing to my mental data base, save for a sexy picture and a name, then my computer, as a tool for learning, is not put to good use.

Attracted to other successful people:
I’ve written about this and I write again. “If you want to waddle like a duck, then be with the ducks. But if you want to soar like an eagle, then be with the eagles.”

Nobody likes to be with losers. It is said that “misery loves company.”

I love my late mother. But in the last years of her life, her visits with us were always about her aches and pains, her debts, her so many pet peeves against the world. But she was my mother that I have to indulge with. Otherwise, a good book is definitely a preferred company rather than someone who constantly carps about how difficult life is.

Aware that success cannot be a one-man show:
Bill Gates could not have achieved his empire without the help of others as driven as he is. Successful people know that they cannot be good in everything, cannot be everywhere at any given time, can only do so much as their bodies allow them to, so they enlist the aid of others who are as good, or even better than them in certain fields.

The simplest analogy will be that of domestic chores. A good head of the family can probably do all there is to be done around the house. But at any given time, he cannot do all, so he has to delegate. In fact, a good head of the family makes it a point to train his/her children some of the things that need to be done on a regular basis.

Optimistic:
We say that when it rains, it pours. Successful people say, “Now we have ample supply of water.”

Nothing saps one’s energies faster than unwarranted pessimism. This is especially true in home business or other self-employment activities where nobody is generally available to take the slack.

But human as we are, we cannot avoid but have bouts of it once in a while. When it does come, say, “This, too, shall pass.”

Know that there is a time for everything:
They don’t push it but take things in stride. A guy who signed up with me on a trial basis said that he is going to upgrade once he will have the time. Hard as I try, I cannot imagine how he can have more time than what each one of us already have in abundance – 24 hrs a day.

If one is pressed for time, or seem to be perpetually in shortage of it, take stock of what you do in a daily basis; average them on a weekly basis and so on. Then decide what you can let go or what you must do. Pit each item to their degree of importance against what you intend to do with your life, your dreams. I bet you, you will soon find more than enough time to do those which are important to succeed in life.

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“Fear of Success” (Part II)

In my previous post, I wrote about the first three traits of successful people. Foremost among them is the desire to dream big dreams, dreams exciting enough to make them reach for the stars. Then I talked about their drive to achieve their dreams, yet the patience to wait it out knowing that things don’t just fall out from the skies but are the results of well-laid down processes.

In continuation, successful people have:

Have Passion:

Have you ever heard of people singing without passion? I’m sure you’d feel the same way I would under the same circumstances – nothing but noise. It is said that if something is worth doing, it is worth doing well.

Taking it forward, successful people do things they are passionate about extraordinarily well. Making one’s dreams come true requires no less an effort.

Have Focus:

Focus is trying to hit a moving target with no bullet to spare. Though successful people, more often than not, make their own opportunities, but they hate to jump from one unfinished thing to another. They make all their shots count. And that requires focus.

Make Decisions:
Making decisions is one of the most difficult things management faces all day. Yet decisions they must make lest they are stopped dead in their tracks.

In its simplest context, making decisions is, no more no less, making a choice between two or more alternatives. The difficult part is the “what ifs” that come with every decision we make.

“Damn the torpedoes,” is sometimes a soothing relief when up against situations like these. And successful people, more often than not, damn more torpedoes than we care to count.

They Don’t Pass the Buck:

It’s so easy for most of us to look around for excuses for all the bad things befalling upon us. Seldom is there a person who would boldly say, “I’m sorry. It was my fault.”

Passing the buck serves no purpose but to murk the issue, miss out on the big things that could spell the difference between success or failure the next time around.

Successful people take each failure in a stride, taking stock of what is left after the dust of failure has settled and start out all over again, more determined than ever to do better the next time.

They Look for Solutions:

My favorite saying while in the corporate world was, “Are you a part of the solution or part of the problem?”

Like it or not, a lot of us are parts of the problem, not the solution. It is because solutions invariably lead to new things, new approaches to problems. And people hate something new that will drastically alter the way they do things.

My classmate in engineering school loved to quip, “if we don’t have the formula to this problem, let’s make our own formula.” Needless to say, he rose to become the vice president of a very large multinational corporation engaged in beverage manufacturing.

(Adopted from Forest Maries’s blog, titled “13 Traits of Successful People)”

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“Fear of Success:”

Previously, I wrote about home business and why a lot of people cringe at the thought of having one. Then I wrote about the false mind-sets that keep most of us from engaging in it. Now I shall remove the veil from all the things we put up to justify our meager existence.

Consciously or sub-consciously we are afraid to succeed. Conditioned to conform to the norms, not to rock the boat, to blend, we don’t know how it is to succeed. It is something new, something different, hence we avoid it with all our might. We know that going to the dentist is a relieving experience, yet we put up so many reasons to postpone a visit.

For this reason we can count by the fingers, people who have succeeded in their fields of endeavor. Because these are the people who are not afraid to do anything, to brave the unknown for the lust of life, to see that they’ve got what it takes. These are the people who:

Have dreams:

The biggest accomplishments of man started with a dream. The bigger the dream the bigger the accomplishment. The greatest monuments of man’s dreams stand for all eternity, i.e., the Great Wall of China, the pyramids of Egypt, the Taj Mahal in India (which I have visited twice), are but a few examples.

Successful people dream dreams. Ordinary mortals make wishes. Successful people work on their dreams. Ordinary mortals wait for life to deliver to them, in a silver platter, their wishes.

Had man just wished to land on the moon, he would never have planted a footstep on the lunar surface.

Achieve:

Successful people try at a lot of things not minding to fail, for failure is considered as a step from which to launch another round of tries. Ordinary mortals try at a lot of things always fearing failure. When it comes, as it surely does, they make excuses.

The recent feat of Michael Phelps in the recent Beijing Olympics defy imagination. All swimmers in the world, I’m sure, would have loved to be in his place. If only they are willing to go through the process he did.

To achieve something, anything, is not a walk in the park, unless all one wants to do is to take a walk in the park. Achieving really something meaningful requires a single-minded of purpose and a total dedication of one’s life towards achieving that which what he wants to achieve.

Know that success is not a “one-shot” deal but a process:

Almost a year ago, in this same coffee shop, I had dollar signs before my eyes when a friend encouraged me to blog for money. After so many failures, so many things to learn, so many scams I got into and extricated myself from, I have slowly shorn off the things that have un-horsed me several times, is beginning to see the path. It helps to have networked with guys like Forest Marie (Skype:successwithforest), Paul Wilson, Kenneth Koh and so many others who are willing to lend a helping hand, not to scalp me even more. They too, went through a process that was anything but wholesome. They, too, went through a learning curve, a gestation period, albeit with a single-mindedness of purpose to succeed.

God, Himself, used a process to make the Universe. Ordinary mortals can do no less – whatever we do will definitely take more than seven days. But we all get there in due time – if we just keep at it with diligence.

On the average, people in this business started the see the light of day after two or three years of bumming about. I am willing to go through the same route, the same length of time

Would your?

(Adopted from Forest Maries’s blog, titled “13 Traits of Successful People)”

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